What is right?

I have recently had a dilemma in how to deal with Lauren.  Things have not changed much.  In fact just last week she took all of my Ambien that was left out for a few minutes.  You have to take a LOT of ambien to overdose, so all she really did is sleep for two days straight.    When she has good days they are wonderful days, if she is a bit hyper happy.  But when she doesn't the reactions are so overblown and reactive.  It is really quite sad.  I worry about her only having two moods lately.  Either hyper happy, or in the pits and angry.

The dilemma comes up in how to raise (Or try to raise her) and how to advise our other children interact with her.  I am sure I take the overly caring way, but in what I do I try to react as much as possible as Heavenly Father would.  He doesn't  give us special blessings when we are not living righteously, but he doesn't quit loving or understanding us, and he is always there with a hug or at least a feeling of a hug when we need it.    I try to live that was with Lauren.  Even though there are many things she has done that disappoint us or I know lead to her unhappiness I try to still be there for her.   Ian not so much.  He doesn't believe change will happen until she decides to make it so.  I agree with that, but I think our unwavering love is the thing that will lead her to make the change.  He feels that she really needs to hit bottom before she will change.  He tends to call her out on her mistakes more than I do, and expect recompense.

The problem as I see it is that she feels like he hates her.  I know that he is only trying to protect the boys from all of the damage that Lauren can cause.  Her brother was asking about how to deal with certain things and Ian said he should just not hang around her much.  I disagree completely.  I think Lauren really needs her brother and that he is a help to her.  I do however see that he has been doing some thing like Lauren.  But that isn't her fault as much as it is his.  Anyway......  Ian wants to protect the boys and I do to, but not at the expense of Lauren.  Which of us is right I don't know.  I wish there was a bit more peace about it.  Anyway.... Lauren is back at work tomorrow, so I hope things go well, and she remains a great employee!